The holiday season has a certain kind of magic to it, kind of like how Walt Disney World has a special kind of magic that you can get anywhere else. It’s so easy to get caught up in the magic of the season and allow it to sweep you off your feet. Is there anything wrong with that? Generally speaking, absolutely not!
However when it comes to popping the question during the holidays it can be a super risky move! You want to be asking for all the right reasons and that you believe in your decision 100% and still believe in that decision any day of the year, not just because you’re wrapped up in holiday magic. If you’re thinking of popping the question this holiday season there are a few Dos and Don’ts that you should keep in mind. Ladies, if you’ve always dreamt of a holiday proposal, you may want to forward this post or conveniently leave this up in the web browser for your significant other to see!
Do Make Sure You’re Ready
Are you absolutely 100% positive you are ready to propose? Are you asking because you’ve never loved anyone like you love her and want to spend the rest of your life with her? That’s why you should want to get married, but don’t just propose because you’ve gotten caught up in the magic of the season or don’t know what to get her for Christmas.
Don’t Propose if the Alcohol is Flowing
Don’t propose to someone if you’ve been drinking. Having one drink to calm your nerves is one thing, but no one wants to be proposed to by someone who is sloppy drunk or even someone who is tipsy.
Do Consider Clueing in Her Parents
If you plan to propose at a family gathering make sure to clue in her parents if you think they can handle it. Asking for permission to marry their daughter is charming, but if you think it will upset them or they be giddy it’s probably best to also leave them in the dark. You don’t want anyone to give it away if you want it to be a genuine surprise.
Don’t Be Someone You’re Not
Don’t be someone you’re not. The point is to be yourself because after all that’s who she fell in love with, isn’t it? There’s no need to reenact scenes and dialogue from her favorite movie. Make it special, but keep it true to yourself and who you both are as a couple.
Do Know Which Route to Take
Do consider how private of a person your girlfriend is. Is she is outgoing and a social butterfly or is she more introverted and likes to keep things private? If she’s more so the latter you should keep your proposal pretty low key and intimate than something that puts her on the spot and creates a scene such as proposing to her on the jumbo tron in front of thousands of people.
Don’t Steal the Limelight
Don’t steal the limelight if it is shining on someone else. If you plan on proposing to her in front of family and friends at the Christmas get together take a moment to access the situation. If her dad is giving her mom a huge gift or say a family member comes home as a Christmas surprise from being deployed, it’s best if you let them take this particular moment instead. You don’t want to come off as trying to steal someone else’s thunder or trying to one up someone else.
Don’t Be Afraid to Stray from the Plan
Don’t get so caught up in making sure that your proposal goes exactly how you planned it to go. It’s okay if not everything goes as planned, enjoy it the special moment. Also don’t second guess yourself if you stray away from your plan if spontaneity hits. Sometimes you have the moment all planned out in your head but then suddenly it strikes you as being the right moment now and not a week from now. If it feels right in the moment, go for it!
What are your Dos and Don’ts for a holiday proposal?